Day 5--The Day You First Fell In Love

Maaaaaan...must we really travel down THIS road?

Okay...I'm thinking it was March or April of 1987.

My crew (which were actually 2 sets...my school crew and my church crew) decided that we would hit Skateland because we had nothing else to do. So one of my church crew asked one of my school crew if she would pick up this dude that she wanted to meet. They had talked on the phone a few times and he went to our school so my girl said yeah.

Fast forward to Skateland. My girl and dude WERE NOT hitting it off. But he and I did...go figure. I talked to her about it and she was like, "girl...go head." Don't know if she meant it but we stayed friends so whatever. So I gave him my number. We'd talk at school whenever we would see each other (he was a senior and went to the tech in the mornings), kiss before he got on the bus to go to tech, kiss before we got on the bus to go home and call each other after school...yadda yadda blah blah blah.

I ended up going with him to his prom, went to his graduation, saw him off as he left for Norfolk State and we STILL weren't an official couple. But I was in love way before we made it official on September 25, 1987. (Don't trip...I only remember it because it was 3 days after my 16th birthday.)

We stayed together for 5 years. He's the father of my daughter and that's about all I got to say about that.

How about a musical selection to fill the space?

20~ Do you believe in Long Distance/Internet Love? Why or Why not?

I'm on the fence about this one.  

I've been involved in 2 internet relationships and neither one of the dudes were worth a damn.  The problem with the internet is that anyone can be who they WANT to be, not necessarily who they REALLY are.  Therefore, lies are told, personalities are faked, and dreams are smashed.  

Now, I have seen quite a few internet relationships develop and blossom for others and I am truly elated for them.  I even know of a few that have met online and gotten married and they're still going strong.  But the parties involved were ADULTS...not people of legal age playing adults. 

As for the long distance relationship, I think a definition is needed.  I believe that anything over 75 miles constitutes long distance.  I was involved in one of those when I was in high school in Richmond and my then-boyfriend/now-daughter's father was in college in Norfolk (approx. 95-100 miles away).  We made it work somehow, so I'm cool with anything under a 3 hour drive.  Anything more than that, I get really cynical really quickly.   

I will admit that I used to prefer long distance/internet relationships and Kali analyzed me (as she often does) and told me that the reason that I probably preferred them was because I didn't want anyone to get too close to me.  I can agree with that to a certain extent but I also don't want someone up under me 24/7...not right now, anyway.  

So I'm all over the place with this blog.  If it works, I say go for it.  And maybe I'll feel differently about it for myself one day.  But right now, I'm busy doing me. 

14~ Recreate your most romantic date (a real one)...

I remember this like it was the day before yesterday...some parts are fuzzy...but I remember the good parts.

I had just gotten off of work and I was headed home when I got a call from my then-boyfriend asking if he could see me.  Of course, I said yes and I went home jumped in the shower and headed to his place.  When I got there, he said he had a surprise for me later but he wanted to go for a ride.  So we hopped in the car and headed to the park.  

So we arrived at Bryan Park and we got out and started walking around.  He had brought some bread because he knew I liked to feed the ducks so we fed them and talked and held hands.  We stayed out there for about 2 hours and headed back to my house but on the way there, he said he had to stop at the store.  So we get to the store (which he worked at) and he tells me to sit tight and he would be back.  He comes back about 5 minutes later with a bag full of stuff and off we go.  

When we get to my house, he asks for a big pot so I give him one and he tells me to go sit down and not to be nosy (Me?  Nosy?).  I do as I'm told and about 15 minutes later, he brings out a whole lobster (drawn butter and lemon included), one red rose and wine.  And the best part of all this???  He feeds the whole thing to me...I should add that he does this because he's allergic to seafood...while candles are flickering, Jodeci is singing and a fire is going in the fireplace (didn't really need a fire because it was the middle of October but it added ambiance to the room). The only downside to the date was that I couldn't kiss him for awhile because he would have started itching like a heroin fiend. 

After that, he would always bring seafood to me...crab legs, scallops, shrimps AND he'd even bring some to my parents (you know, to get in good with them).  It must have worked because 3 years later, I married him. 

1~ First Love (of course!)...what they meant/mean to you...

Hello Blogger world!!  I've accepted another 30 day challenge hosted by one of my closest and dearest friends, The Kween, all about love!!  So I invite you to sit back and enjoy the journey into my love life (or lack thereof).

My first love...*sigh*...that brings back a lot of memories for me.  Fifteen years old, entering my sophomore year in high school, not knowing my head from my ass, and I met this guy who went to my school at a skating rink 2 years my senior.  We exchanged numbers and talked or saw each other everyday for the next 5 years (uncommon for teenagers).

This was a guy that showed me patience, showed me love, and even showed me how to scratch on the 1s and 2s...he was a DJ.  He treated me like a lady, even though I didn't realize it at the time.  We would actually date...movies, dinner, bowling, etc.  He taught me how to play video games (remember Tecmo Bowl?)  He taught me about sex, as he was my first.  He taught me about responsibility, as when I became pregnant at 18, he did any- and everything he had to do to make sure our child had everything she needed and some of what she wanted.  

This is a man that has been in my life for longer than any man not related to me has been...25 years and we are still friends today.  He celebrated his birthday yesterday so Happy Belated Birthday JW and I wish you all the happiness your heart can hold and as much happiness as you showed to me back then.