22~ Create the perfect love scene

Hmm...not really sure what to put here so I'm just gonna close my eyes and type whatever comes to mind.

They sat on the balcony of the Breezes Runaway Bay hotel in Jamaica watching the waves crash the shore, looking at the full moon and gazing at the starts, holding hands, just enjoying each other.   He looks at her with longing eyes as he reaches his hand out and says, "come on.  There's something I want to show you."

They leave their room and push the "L" button as they enter the elevator.  As soon as the doors close, he grabs her in his arms and passionately kisses her until the elevator stops on the 3rd floor.  The gentleman that walks on has a suspicion of what has taken place and gives a sly look to the couple, who just politely smiles back.  As the elevator comes to the lobby, they step out of the hotel and onto one of the most beautiful scenes she's ever seen.

A cabana  has been set up and there's a dinner table with candlelight, wine and a place setting for two.  He looks at her with those loving brown eyes and says, "surprise.  I hope you like it."  How could she not?

  After being seated, a waiter pours the wine and leaves the couple alone for awhile.  He takes her by the hand and says, "Baby, I know this may seem like a dream to you but I want to be there for all of your dreams.  I want you to always be happy and it would mean the world to me if you would say yes to becoming my wife."

Just then, he pulls out a 4 karat diamond and sapphire ring and she's speechless.  She loves this man with everything in her and she wants to be his everything.  She had been in love before, even married twice, but she knew that he was the man her heart had been searching for her whole adult life.  She looks into his eyes, as tears roll down her face, and gives a resounding YES to her new fiance.  He grabs her gently by the face, wiping her tears away and resumes the kiss they started in the elevator.

21~ What is the most romantic location you would want to visit?

Damn...I'm further behind than I thought.  smh

Anyhoo...this one is easy for me.  I have always wanted to travel to Italy.  Venice or Rome.  I think it would be so romantic to take a gondola ride down the canals or to look at art in some of the world's finest museums or feed authentic Italian food to my loved one.

Look at her sitting there in all of her royal nakedness...Exquisite!!

Imagine eating this...

here...

Ahh...Italia.  Voglio essere una parte di te.

20~ Do you believe in Long Distance/Internet Love? Why or Why not?

I'm on the fence about this one.  

I've been involved in 2 internet relationships and neither one of the dudes were worth a damn.  The problem with the internet is that anyone can be who they WANT to be, not necessarily who they REALLY are.  Therefore, lies are told, personalities are faked, and dreams are smashed.  

Now, I have seen quite a few internet relationships develop and blossom for others and I am truly elated for them.  I even know of a few that have met online and gotten married and they're still going strong.  But the parties involved were ADULTS...not people of legal age playing adults. 

As for the long distance relationship, I think a definition is needed.  I believe that anything over 75 miles constitutes long distance.  I was involved in one of those when I was in high school in Richmond and my then-boyfriend/now-daughter's father was in college in Norfolk (approx. 95-100 miles away).  We made it work somehow, so I'm cool with anything under a 3 hour drive.  Anything more than that, I get really cynical really quickly.   

I will admit that I used to prefer long distance/internet relationships and Kali analyzed me (as she often does) and told me that the reason that I probably preferred them was because I didn't want anyone to get too close to me.  I can agree with that to a certain extent but I also don't want someone up under me 24/7...not right now, anyway.  

So I'm all over the place with this blog.  If it works, I say go for it.  And maybe I'll feel differently about it for myself one day.  But right now, I'm busy doing me. 

19~ What do you love to do the most?

You know what?  I think that outside of the "personal relationship" questions, this is the hardest question.

I really don't have an answer.  I mean, I like to do a lot of things but I'm not passionate about any one thing.  I know this may seem strange and maybe even a cop out of sorts but I realized a while back that I don't have an addictive personality.  I grew up with alcoholics and around drug addicts and I made it a point that I would never let myself get that caught up in anything (cigarettes made me a liar).

The one thing I can say that I haven't let go of is my love for my family and friends.  I admit it...I love hard and I love forever unless someone fucks that away.  And I do have a thing for taking care of people, whether family, friends or patients (I used to work in nursing homes for a while).  So if I had to choose one thing that I love to do is to take care of those that can't take care of themselves and/or just being there for those that need a friend.

That's all I got.

18~ Have you ever been in a love triangle...with you as the object of desire?

I REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEALLY don't want to write about this because I will have to face my own flaws but I guess this is what this challenge is about.  So...

Yes, I've been in a triangle.  It was between my daughter's father and my older son's father (I'm sick of writing about his ass but unfortunately, this won't be the last time).  Just to lay it on the line and to make a long story short, I was "with" both of them in the biblical sense before finally breaking it off with my daughter's father and I ended up choosing the wrong one.

I did some dirt to my daughter's father...I mean gritty, grimy, if I was on the outside of myself, I would have whipped my own ass shit...over this dude and yet he still loved and wanted me.  And I, like the fool, went for the outer shell and left one of the best relationships I'd ever had.  Words were exchanged (we all worked at different places in the same mall at the time) but luckily, no one ever came to blows. My daughter's father even came to my house when the other one was there and looked dude straight in the eye and told him that he better take care of me.  Bitch ass nigga didn't listen.

But anyway, that's the condensed version of the story. I actually have a headache after reliving and writing this.  Oh well, life lessons don't always make one feel good.

17~ Do you think young people can fall in love and it be true?

Yes I do think young people can fall in love and it be true.

Just a couple of examples...

My daughter's father and I started dating when we were 17 and 15 and we stayed together for 5 years.  The end.

A friend of mine that lived two houses down from me while growing up started dating his then-girlfriend when they were in 8th grade in 1982.  He's on my facebook friend list and he and she have been married for quite awhile now.  That's basically 30 years together.  Bless them.

So again, short and sweet and to the point, yes, I believe it...if the young people are mature enough to recognize what love is.

16~ Do you believe in love at first sight?

Another question that can be answered with very few words...

No. 

I believe that you can fall in lust at first sight and I have done that and mistakenly took that for love but as I've gotten older, I realize that there's more to love than the outer shell.  Personality, communication skills...which include speaking AND listening...and patience are all more attractive and sexy to me.  

To have someone challenge my mind (or as I like to call it, giving my head some head) gets me to the falling in love stage much quicker than some eye candy.  

So again, MY answer to this question is no.  But I'm sure others may feel different.  Let's have a musical selection to end this, shall we?